A little after my previous post, "please just let me breakdown", I took a last minute 72hr mini trip to L.A. in the beginning of this month. Although I went through a whole lotta crap in May, I also complained every step of the way. It didn't stop in L.A. either - being late, dealing with traffic, hard ass interview, the Lakers winning, feeling sick, and missing a flight took a toll on me. Because of being late to LAX, I was denied to get on the plane along with another passenger who was a Vegas visitor. I was stressed, frustrated, angry, irritated, and everything in between!! While on the other hand, the other fellow seemed calm and said, "maybe it was a good thing I missed the flight, less for me to gamble my money away." Early the next morning and still frustrated, I ran into the fellow at LAX and asked if he was able to go home and come back. He simply said that he "stayed at the airport and waited the 4 hours walking around" because he lived too far. I was still frustrated and angry even for him. At our gate, he knocked over his McDonald's iced coffee. I said to him, "omg, your trip isn't starting so great, huh?!" As he was cleaning up his mess, I felt bad and frustrated for him. I thought to myself, if that were me, I would be so pissed that I stood in that long ass line at McDonald's and now 3/4 of my drink in totally gone!! And then he said calmly, "it's a good thing I bought an extra large drink so I still have some left!"
So there I was ... complaining of how the drink was half empty, when he was simply happy that it was still half full!!
And at that instant moment, I finally realized that I AM the one in control with how happy or unhappy I want to be! At that instant moment, I realized I able to CHOOSE how I want to view life's occurrences!! I truly believe meeting this stranger was my fate. We were both put in the same place at the same to for this very reason.
I've been thinking about this for a couple weeks now and I’ve been on this “inspirational-I can do anything-I love my life-I am grateful for everything & everyone” tip!! And it’s fkn amazing! It really is!!!
1. Let it go! Stop assuming that the world is against you or that you were born with a black cloud over your head. To believe the whole universe or spiritual entity has completely singled you out and shifted the world order just to make your life utterly miserable is self-centered and illogical...seriously.
2. Build a bridge and get over it! Understand that the past does not equal the future. Like I mentioned in a previous blog post, just because you've been fucked over in the past doesn't guarantee that it's all you'll experience in the future! A day that starts off badly with walking up late for work after a late night fight with your boyfriend and spilling coffee all over your brand new skirt will not necessarily end with a black eye or a speeding ticket on your first car! Okay yes, there were situations in our lives that were beyond our control, but there are also many things in life we can control, including your thoughts and views - thus having the possibility to change. Oprah said, "your based level of pleasure is determined by how you view your whole life." You choose happiness... it doesn't choose you.
3. See yourself as a cause, not an effect! Quit thinking of what is happening to you and start thinking about what you can make happen! We only got one life to live people and you don't want to waste it by complaining. If you're not happy with how your life is right now, set goals and work toward them. If you have a whole shit load of bills to pay off, work a little extra or stop buying those expensive shoes you claim you need. If you're complaining with how you can't fit into your favorite jeans, get your ass to the gym. No action is taking an action!
4. Don't loose touch of what makes you truly happy. Surround yourself with positive caring people or things. It may either be your homies, your family, your dog, or your passion. Because when times are tough, turning to passion of music or fashion or your kids or having a girls night out can really help you get back on your feet.
5. Life is short. Learn to appreciate even the little things because remember that it could be worst. Some people would be die to have the pleasure of waking up in under a solid roof over their head or have feet to walk to the restroom in the mornings or see the sun setting over an endless body of water. Be thankful. Be grateful.
Love life ... and I promise you... it will love you back!!
Here's few of my favorite books that keep me inspired: " Words of Wisdom: Daily Affirmations of Faith from Run’s House to Yours" by Rev Run & "O's Guide to Life" by Oprah Winfrey. Get it! It might even inspire you!
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Inspiring especially in my current situation. Will always go back to reading this when times are tough.
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